I just want to be friends...Pt2

[breakdownbill]

Hi Yankee

I've just been reading your posts & can feel that you have a lot of resentment towards your H right now. I think Bklyn was right about the flowers. I mean he's made an effort to get flowers delivered, felt terrible about them not arriving to you on your birthday, been on the phone to the florists trying to sort it out & then when they do get there, you don't appreciate them & tell him they made you cry. I can totally understand his, 'Woe is Me, everything I touch turns to sh*t' feelings right now. It might not have seemed attractive and masculine the way he handled the situation, but it felt like he was reaching out to you.

I think this guy who paid you all the compliments on your birthday you've been hanging out with is clouding your judgement about your H right now. He is making you feel good about yourself, saying all the right things, making you feel!! Whether you realise it or not you are comparing your H to this guy.

You've been doing really well YC with the GAL and the detaching, but you are coming accross lately, like you don't want to get back with your H and it's confusing me.

Don't feel too bad about your birthday, I mean when you read people's posts they don't even know whether to send a text or a card wishing their WAS / LBS a happy birthday. It's a limbo situation for both parties.

Have a think about how your last interaction went with your H & try & put yourself in his shoes. If it was me, it wouldn't make me want to step up my pursuit. I think your next interaction with H needs to be warmer & more positive. It might be pursuing on your part, but I would offer an olive branch here while he is feeling low, by contacting him and apologizing about the flowers & reassuring him that it was a nice jesture & that you appreciated he did that for you. (It doesn't have to be anything more than that)

I'm not telling you what to do though Yankee, I'm just stepping in your H's shoes & letting you know what would make me feel better in that situation.

Bill