Was that the post you meant to put up? I don't see seeking's input?
At any rate, I have seen a lot of similar. My kids were about the same age when it started to show(2 of them.) She wants them to choose, wants to act like she isn't angry, depressed, etc. Doesn't want to face it. Left the cat too
Why not want things from your past? Really? I mean, if I have to look at what I had, I might not have the nerve to leave. If I admit it was "me", then I have to deal with those issues. If I avoid them, I can go on my merry way and life is "good" If I can just get rid of the past, if I can run from it, I can start again and be "happy". Or so the thinking goes...
It's not "good" though. There are some nagging reminders, such as kids, memories, ex-H, etc. Can you be happy? Sure. Will reality intrude? You bet.
Mine's done similar. Left the friends, the house, the keepsakes, the kids (came back to the kids - kind of) blamed me for her unhappiness (after many stories were made up and re-made up when they didn't "fit")etc. It seems like a way to deal with things in smaller pieces. Some never finish the entire plate, but that's a different story.
This is clearly something she needs to face and deal with. You can't help. Really. You can help to protect the kids although they are going to react to their mother and situation as they are able. That's something you have little input into other than guidance for the kids.
It gets better and more interesting. This fantasy land they live in is fragile at best. But they try...
My $0.04 worth anyway.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
