round 2

[someguy1233]

Update 4/13-
Yesterday W told me she was going to take the bus home. I went and picked up our son from daycare and proceed to make dinner, etc. I had a great time playing with him while making dinner.

She came home not much later than normal and was surprised that I was making dinner. She said she sent me a text letting me know she was on the way, but I didn’t hear my phone. She said she sent the text because I had asked that she keep me informed. I told her I appreciate it.

She gave me a big hug and asked if I wanted to have a bonfire after our son went to bed. She said she was “trying.” I agreed, but by the time the daily chores were completed it was too late and we ended up watching TV…

During dinner she said that I’ve been acting weird the last couple days. She said I’m being “fake happy.” She said she expects me to be sad or angry, but happy isn’t normal. I shrugged it off and told her that’s odd. I guess my 180 attempts aren’t exactly subtle, but I actually FEEL happier. I’ve been enjoying my time with our son more and I’m not allowing these problems to consume me.

She also said that I need to find some (new) friends. She doesn’t believe she can communicate on the level that I want to about some of my interests. Then she got a little agitated and said she knows that it’s her fault that I don’t have friends and that I can’t hold that against her forever. (this is due to the chosen falling out I had with our old group of friends from the past A). I didn’t even bring up this topic and she was getting defensive. I found this interesting… She also made a comment about not being a “good housewife” lately. (She isn’t a housewife, but does do the majority of the cooking)



Her therapist gave her some pages from a book called “Safe Haven Marriage” and a couple “The Keirsey Temperament Sorter II / Please Understand Me II” personality tests for us to take. For some reason I feel odd filling this out not knowing her counselor’s intentions or plan.

This morning I informed her that I made an appointment for us with a marriage therapist. She said she didn’t really want to go to two therapists and that we should just go to hers. Before I could respond she said that she’d go to both if I wanted to.

On a happy note, this weekend is our son’s one year birthday party. I’m excited to entertain friends and family for a few hours. Hopefully the weather stays nice.