Young and the restless? No it's Older and Patient

[Seminolewind]

Thanks, Trusting and Drew the little things inspire me to keep going.

Kaffe, the new female friend was very funny and the sad thing is, I had no clue. I am good with what happened and it makes for a funny story.

I have nothing to hide and it helps me get more of my story out when people ask questions. So ask away. As far as the relationship with my ex. I would like to civilly co-parent and just get along for the girls. Nothing more nothing less. I told her I would help her financially until the house sold. Well I have kept up my end of the verbal agreement but when she went off on me in my house about me wrecking her reputation. She woke the sleeping little angry man inside. She ran out of my house after she yelled at me on Tuesday night. She refused to discuss it any further and I think she just had to have something to be angry about. I refuse to let her come to my home and accuse me of something that is 100% false. That is why I sent the e-mail. Lets fast forward to yesterday, she sent me a text saying: Can I get $100.00 from u? plz respond w/yes or no. The little angry man is still kicking away inside and this is how I responded. Wow, you ask for money and then tell me how to respond to your text. I don’t know that I am in the business anymore of being told what to do by my ex-wife. You already know that I am tired of getting taken advantage of by you. Now I question whether or not you were even being sincere in the e-mail you sent yesterday. You know what? It doesn’t really matter! The first time you cross my boundary, it will be the last time I do anything for you. Yes, you can have the money.

As it turns out she didn’t come and get the money and she asked to take my D12 to school today, which she did. So I feel good about myself right now. I just don’t care anymore and that is powerful. To be honest I wanted her to take the money and then accuse me of something false. Maybe I am back to the anger stage or maybe I am just done putting up with crap behavior. I just know I am feeling like I am taking my life back more and more each day. You need to remember that she was treating me great until about a month ago. We got along great, laughed, talked, and I think she started feeling way too comfortable. Who knows. She went from being overly nice to this person that I don’t need to deal with anymore.

Wendy,

You will be able to live again through this. It takes time and soon everything just starts falling in place. When this all first started I had a hard time thinking I could have big functions with friends and family, now I enjoy them. It’s all about working towards your next goal. Setting boundaries wasn’t my priority until I finally seen how much crap I was putting up with. Now two words, no more.

Fake people will never find true happiness. Set your own boundary. You will feel a sense of relief.

Have a great weekend!