Hey zig, it does appear you got the message in my post as bug pointed out.
I know how messed up it can be. How messed up it can feel.
The devil IS in the details... but those are NOT YOUR details...
Whether your H and his family continue to function and not implode... or explode... around their dynamic...
Well, their actions... and time... will tell... In the same way that I watch the pattern repeat itself over and over again with my parents, of which my father is a recovered alcoholic and my mother is still one... their chit can get crazy frustrating... and it keeps repeating... and one day, that pattern may stop... and it may stop because of the death of one of them...
Oh, I know messed up... from my father's family, my mother's family, my W's family...
And NO MATTER how much I've learned the dynamics and dysfunctions, the details as such... none of that helped them... it has only served me... in that I know many of the details...
The only thing I can do with that info is live my life in the way I want, regardless of THOSE details that DO NOT have to affect me...
You weren't necessarily in LRT prior to this "house" bomb... but it may be something to consider for you, as you protect yourself through this and find your ground and centre again... and figure out what you want, fix your own problems, and move forward...
independent of what is going on in your H's family life... nor whether you and your H ever reconcile...
