I'm sorry that this is getting you down so much and that you don't see many options. To me - the obvious option is to talk to your L about it. Let her know you don't have food on the table. That it is an EMERGENCY and you need to go for temporary support immediately (they do have that) and that you are sure she can understand that her bill has to wait until a settlement has been reached. Any decent lawyer would understand this.
And although I'm sure you hate to be told this - you must go to a Food Bank. You cannot go without food for yourself and your family. There is no shame in this and certainly - under the circumstances - you must do this.
S15 may have to get a job. Many young people his age have part time jobs and if that's what it takes - that's what you do. My children started working at part time jobs between ages 12 and 14. It gave them some experience, maturity and spending money.
You have to get out of the victim mode. I understand it - I was once there myself - but it will never pay the bills or get you back on track. You absolutely HAVE to list what you CAN do and forget the blame. Regardless of how it happened (and we all have similar stories) - you have to take hold of the NOW. What can YOU do? Can you get a job that will not affect support? Can you trade your service for something that will help you - like food?
There are always ways. You may have to get creative but if you do nothing - it will not get better.
And yes - my ex cheated, left, did not file, expected me to pay, did not pay CS or SS (still doesn't) and dragged it all out. Let him whirl in the wind. His true colours will be shown in court and that's not pretty to a judge but for now - do what you have to do. Even if you have to get some temporary help from a relative.
