What snodderly said is 100% spot on. It hurts like hell when they do this, and things will happen that are 2 steps foward 3 steps back. It will seem all the ground you've finally gained is ripped right out from under you, and now you've got to work on getting up again. It's all about justification for him right now.
I've been through xh doing this to me, but he never has given his side of the story to the kids. he just expects them to do as their told and accept all that he's done without any explanation. Be prepared for friends and family to hear his side of the story and for some to take his side. That's happened to me. turns out the one that took his side had an MLC about 3 years ago and her behavior was no better than his, maybe worse. I think she still is in MLC, so of course she'll side with him and his OW. But she's the only one, never liked her anyway.
