I read your post earlier and had a good chuckle about your new, female friend...
Reading the dialogue between your X and yourself, I could definitely see a conversation like that in the future for me and my W. Although I can't say, for sure...
I do have a question though and I hope it sounds reasonable, because it really is meant in complete curiosity.
What is your intention now, with regard to your relationship with your W? What do you want between the two of you, moving forward?