I'm really glad you have your family in the same house to support you. Making a decision can give you peace as you're no longer in limbo. Have you spoken to a lawyer yet to understand your options? I would make sure to do that before you say anything to H about what your plans are going forward. Often they will give you a free consultation. If you are seeing IC or MC ask for a referral if you don't have a lawyer already.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015