I would be careful about relaying the IC's diagnosis to H. In my experience, it's easy to have selective hearing -- you hear what the IC says and relay that into things the IC didn't say that you believe to be the case.
Also, the IC is giving you a diagnosis by proxy, he or she hasn't actually talked to H and that is also dangerous.
I'm not saying to disregard the advice IC gave you, just weigh it along with your DB coach's advice and your own knowledge of H.
I went to 2 separate IC's and one MC, and they all evaluated W differently. There's no hard science in the therapy world, there are a number of strong theories that seem to fit, but behavior is SOOOO complicated, it's a very difficult area.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015