That is why whenever H would have ideas or plans and I would question the "what ifs" or "buts" H would say I was being negative when in reality I was just exploring the options.
Saw this on wishing's thread and wanted to journal my thoughts here.
Pick any day out of my M, and this would describe my H and I. I realized that while I was stating "options" what he was hearing was that I thought his idea to do something wasn't a good one, and I had a better one. My H saw that as me not supporting him. This was one of the things I did wrong on the checklist he had in his head.
So I've worked on just talking to him about his ideas or plans, and as long as no one is going to die, be injured, or end up penniless, I tell him to go for it! I think it surprised him the first time I did it.
