Fig – I totally agree. I was working on myself WAY before the bomb drop. Spent a year in counseling working on me. I’ve stumbled a little on the self esteem path since then, but know ultimately what a happy me looks like. I want to get back there. Hopefully with my M intact. But if not, I need to rethink what a single, happy, fulfilled me looks like. Before counseling, I never had that. I was what people thought was happy, but not really fulfilled or liking myself too much. Being single isn’t what will be the hard thing to do. Depending on myself won’t be hard. I’ve been doing that most of my life anyway. Getting over losing my husband will be the hardest thing. I haven’t really been thinking about it that way (avoidance I know), but I guess there’s no time like now to start.
Originally Posted By: figgeroni
I had to act as if there was no one else in my life to be concerned about...
This stood out for me. I don’t think I’ve ever done this in my life. Something I worked on in counseling but never got good at. One more thing to work on I guess.
