I am living my life and having a good time. I had a huge bbq/party this past weekend and it turned out awesome. We put a pig on the pit and beer on ice and had two days of fun out on my farm. I met a woman that I was interested in getting to know better. Well as my luck goes most of the time, she is only interested in dating women. So we had that in common! I got all moved in my new house and life is looking up every day. Working on my garden this week and that really makes me smile.
My ex was spewing that everything wrong in her life was still my fault. She sent me an e-mail that said “could you give me some gas money for all the running around I must do on your week?” I got a little angry and sent her this reply.
Let me ask you this, the phrase you wrote "all the running around I must do on your week", do you think that could have been a little stab at my ability to be a parent? Then you came to my house and accused me of doing something to harm your reputation. Do you think it could be possible that you hurt your own reputation by your own actions? Do you really think I would pull something like that? I have never tried to purposely disrespect you as a person. I have been more than generous in giving you money. I still pay for your vehicle insurance. What have you done? The only thing I have seen, is you trying to pick fights with me to make yourself feel better or look like the victim. When is my ex going to step up to the plate and start acting responsible? I followed with my heart long enough and I have finally hit the point that I can't be used anymore. I have had enough! I refuse to let you kick me around anymore. I don't need you to pick D12 up on my week and I made arrangements for the rest of the school year. I don't need your drama anymore. I will take D12 to youth group tonight. Just keep pushing your problems on everyone else and see how far that gets you in life. You are where you are at, because of the choices you have made. I don't have to be the nice guy anymore. I am a single man that can do what I choose in life. You made that decision for all of us involved.
When you are ready to start talking to me like an adult and acting like an adult I will be more than willing to talk. I am no longer going to play the game that you stay mad at me to make yourself feel better. It's childish and I refuse to be treated without respect. I don't want to hear one more lie about anything I just don't see the point. That's my official boundary.
If you have questions regarding selling the house and how it's best to achieve that goal. Please talk to me as a business partner in the matter.
Do not respond with a nasty e-mail I don't need this stuff in my life anymore! Life is too short for games and drama, that stuff is for teenagers.
This is what she sent back.
You are right. I have done the damage to myself. No, I didn't mean any harm by saying it's your week. She is my daughter, and our relationship is becoming much better. I'm not fighting with you any longer.
I didn’t respond. I don’t really feel the need to talk to her about anything unless it’s kid or house related. As you can tell I wrote the e-mail while I was angry and I didn’t care. I actually still don’t. My life is mine and I have been way too nice for way too long. A female friend of mine asked me a few days ago if “I had ever been accused of being too nice.” You know what, I don’t need to be accused, I have been too nice. This is the thing I am going to work on about myself. Not that I don’t want to be a nice person. I just don’t want someone to take advantage of me because I am being nice. There is always something that I don’t realize I am doing until I see it myself.
Have a good day!
Me 44 W 38 M 18 D 18 D 13 Bomb 10/21/2010 Divorced 7/19/2011 Just getting to the 7th inning!
