I have found that the biggest changes... the ones that were worth the most
the ones that mattered most to my ultimate happiness
were the ones that happened on the inside
and
initially anyway
only involved how I looked at myself
they required no one else's participation
because firstly...I had to learn to depend on myself
I had to act as if there was no one else in my life to be concerned about...
who was I who did I want to be where did I want to go
I made a goal/dream board so I had a visual reminder of where I wanted to go in my life...things that were important...what I wanted my authentic self to be
for example...I had worse than no self esteem because I had the worst most horrible self esteem ever. I felt I deserved bad things happening to me. I didn't like that but I didn't know how to change that. But I decided that I wanted to feel good about myself. Really good. Like I deserved amazing and wonderful things to happen to me without feeling guilty. So I found examples of what that would look like and sound like and cut them out and pasted them down and looked at them everyday.
