Gosh! Your M sounds like mine, Wendy. I also worked for years to supplement our income, moved many times, even immigrated to two different countries. Brought up our 4 children, involved in Girl Guides, school trips, took care of our houses, spent a lot of time alone in new strange cities, while he went on extended business trips, yadda yadda yadda ... life in a busy family. We also have a largish mortgage. We are not wealthy by any standard, but there is enough money to put me and D19 through university. I see this as my time to study and start a new career.
I still cook for my H when he's home, but that is so rare, that it's almost not worth mentioning. I do what I want, and don't care if he has anything to say, which is never. He doesn't care. Sorry, don't want to hijack ... just commenting on the similarities between us. It's what keeps me coming back, that there so many people so similar to me, and my history, and also fighting this WAS/MLC war.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim