best thing I did for the kids during our ordeal was taking them on two trips
without h. First we took a short ski holiday and rented a cabin with a hot tub and huge flat screen. We skiied and played games and watched movies and went into the hot tub with the snow... had a fun time WITHOUT H which showed the kids "We are a fun family, with or without all the members"....heck, we military families would kill ourselves if we thought every person in the family had to be there in order to have fun or relax.
If you can get a friend or sister to go with you DO SO but don't NOT go...
DO GO...and I suggest you not take your h b/c he won't be the fun guy you are dreaming of, and by you going and having fun and making memories for your children
you give him something to miss WHILE you make your new life fun.
I also planned a trip for our 25th wedding anniversary although it became apparent h would not be here for it. So I adjusted and took my 3 kids to ITaly and we had among the best vacations ever.The planning itself cheered me up once I realized we were going no matter what...talk about empowering.
The trip was wonderful....No tension and no fights. A great time...(and boy did it bother my h! He probably resented it too, but I found out later that he was constantly trying to reach us... but I was not concerned about it.)
We went to a stimulating place I'd always wanted to see, with no reminders of h and I rarely thought about our marital problems when we toured Florence and Rome...like maybe never.
Go! HAVE FUN!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
