Thank you, Yankee. I want to keep my mindset there and I hope I can.

I felt when I was on the phone with my H today that I was very strong. I wanted so badly to fight what he was saying and ask a million questions and instead I just let it go. I accepted what he was saying and I accepted that this is his life and this is what he wants. Several months ago I would have never been able to do that. This is one huge change on my part.

It will only get harder, I'm afraid. I now have to be able to talk about the details of how we're going to make this work without being emotional and showing him that I'm ok. Easier said than done.

I also don't know how I'm going to be able to handle him continuing to sleep with this OW. Its one thing for him to do it behind my back but now for him to continue on with it when he knows that I know is pretty harsh.

This type of behavior should be illegal. The amount of pain and anguish that it causes a family is unbelievable.


Me: 32 H: 32
M 9 yrs
#1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2
Bomb 8/12/11
H moved out 8/14/11
PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12
Got my own place 8/25/12
H & OW move in together 9/15/12
Still married.