It's not about power or manipulation, it's about respect. Midwest says his W always had little respect for him and was always in charge. On top of that she became a WAW and left.
Midwest in her eyes is not valueable. Now this is speaking from personal experience but in my case I was too clingy, and rarely took charge. She saw these as displays of low value.
While the notion of getting courted does indeed sound very nice and flattering, based on what Midwest has written its only going to make things worse.
There are multiple cases of guys who pick the super nice road when DBing they usually get dragged on into limbo as there W's won't leave, but refuse to return to something they don't value.
If he is there all the time, or continously courting her all he is displaying is that no matter what she does he will always be there. Yes that sounds romanticly nice, but in practice it's misery for the guy, and an attraction killer for the woman.
This may sound crazy but I believe that if a guy is there too much, he looks desperate, weak, and like he has no options. If he tries to hard it'll be pursuing and she'll lose interest.
