I think for a long time he has realized that I am not at all the person he thought he was marrying. But instead of really acknowledging it, he decided to work through it on his own and try to fix everything.
A lot of times I doubt our R too just because he has seen what its like to be with someone who has the qualities he has always wanted. For him to look back at me and think, I'd really like to try things out again with her seems pretty unlikely. ...just wish she would leave us alone.)
JKS, please do not put yourself down. I know it is so easy to do that in this type of situation, but you do not deserve that at all. You are a wonderful and lovely person in your own right!
The only way you will 'win' is by being yourself in all your glory and wonderful uniqueness, and by standing up for yourself. That shines like a star in the night and everyone notices that!
Also, he married you because you were different from him. This OW is just like him - and sure that level of compatibility is potentially intoxicating, but friendship is very different from intimate relationship. Whole different ball game. So, let it do it's thing, while you be the best YOU you are.
