Accuray, I get what you're saying and I want to not believe what he says. However, I don't see this OW going anywhere any time soon. She is here to stay and I'm pretty sure as soon as my H feels its ok, he will be moving in with her. They have been friends for almost 6 years. And something that really bothered me that she had mentioned when I went over to her house was in their profession... they're both cops... she said that they have to be there for one another when they are out responding to calls and the situations they go through are very intense. High intense situations very often bring people closer together in a very different way. She said its like we've formed this family. So they've bonded with each other on a level that I can't even comprehend. I will never have that with him.
I've tried to talk myself into believing that this affair will never last but, honestly, I think she's just what he's always wanted. I think for a long time he has realized that I am not at all the person he thought he was marrying. But instead of really acknowledging it, he decided to work through it on his own and try to fix everything.
A lot of times I doubt our R too just because he has seen what its like to be with someone who has the qualities he has always wanted. For him to look back at me and think, I'd really like to try things out again with her seems pretty unlikely.
Maybe if this woman died or something would I ever have a chance, but that is also very unlikely. (Not that I wish her dead... just wish she would leave us alone.)
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
