I'm so happy for you. I think that your wife wanting everything to be solid first, and going excruciatingly slow, is actually beautiful. It's the truth of life and relationships. It's really very slow anyway, even if you are in the same house. It's not one choice, it's the day-by-day choice and the minute-by-minute choices. So, you are wise to let it be.
I wish you every happiness, and I consider you successful.
