Stronger

[kat727]

First of all: Big hug! Secondly, the reason he left had nothing to do with you. Every relationship has ups and downs and we need to own our part in that but no, you didn't make him leave. There was something that HE was missing inside. So easy if he said it was all your fault, you weren't this or that, but deep down it was something he was missing in himself.

We go around thinking that someone else can make us happy or whole. The truth is that it all is within us. Heaven help the person running around thinking someone completes them and without that person they are nothing.

As a mom, I know how hard it is to put yourself first. I often get sick when I slow down because I am constantly running on fumes. I am a work in progress. I have said this before, usually on the fidelity thread but when I was a flight attendant and we would do the oxygen mask demo, we say put the mask on yourself first and then children with you. I used to always think, oh no, I would put it on Christopher first. I didn't get it until the divorce: If I don't take care of myself first, I won't be around to help my kids or others that might need me. If I put it on my child first, he doesn't have the skill set that I do...he can't take care of me and his siblings. So as selfish as it sounds, put your oxygen mask on yourself first. Take care of you so that you can be there for Gabe and Marc tomorrow and many years into the future.

kat