My biggest problem right now is I am not seeing or talking to him at all so it is hard to think of what i could do to get him to ask me out on a date. This is the longest I have gone without talking to him ever. I saw him at work for a few minutes on Monday - he knows I am always at his plant Monday mornings for a little while & I think he came looking for me. He said he was going to stop by to take care of a few things but of course never showed. I just feel like he is slipping away, but I do have to admit my day to day life isn't as crazy as when I am waiting for him to call or stop by. I still miss him alot but I guess this is easier on me since he is being so wishy washy.
My question about boundaries:
I am re-reading DR & also a post I printed out awhile back about acting as if. I understand that I need to make interactions with him upbeat & pleasant, etc. But, he knows that there are a few issues we need to deal with together - taxes, some bills etc. - whisch is why he said he would stop by this week. I know he was here this week when I was at work & it bothers me that he can't stop by when I am here or at least call so we can get these things handled.
I don't want to change the locks or anything because I know it would really p*ss him off. He comes over to use the computer & I am really tempted to put a password on it but that would make him mad too. The reason I am asking about boundaries is because I am wondering if I should do some of these things or if that is the wrong approach since it will just cause problems. I just feel the he is taking advantage of me - he can't be bothered to deal w/ these issues but feels he can walk in here & use computer etc when I am not here. He always trys to make it look like he wasn't here but I can always tell because he clears history & cookies etc on computer & it clears out my login for this BB.
Maybe it is not that big of a deal but I wondered if anyone has any input on this situation.
