Do I just give in?

[Hurt84]

Sorry for the repeated posts, I know I'm new and I'm on moderation.

One additional point, Accuray pointed out and I've read on here and other forums that I shouldn't talk to her family about our issues or get third parties involved. What do I do if they come to me asking what is going on or looking to help?

The reason I ask that is both her sister and mother are aware that things aren't going well between us. I'm close with SIL and her boyfriend so naturally over these 2 months our situation has come up in conversation. My wife hasn't spoken to either her mother or sister about any this, even with them trying to reach out to her. That's very odd for her because she is generally pretty close to them. She's basically avoiding talking about it with anyone that "matters" - her mom, sister, close friends. The only people she's talking to or seeking advice from that I can gather is a co-worker of hers who is a few years younger, has her own relationship issues, and is probably only getting the parts of the story she wants to tell.

I don't want to bring others into our business and either put them in a bad spot or have her resent the fact that they know and she wasn't the one to tell them. But I also don't want to completely shut them out because they've been very supportive through everything.

Thanks!