Thanks again Ogda. This ride isn't quite as exciting as a real rollercoaster. Still plannin ona phone consult this week.

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Thanks joyful. I know I need to "get a life" & let him come to me. I have seen glimpses of this in the past few months. When I least expect something from him, there he is w/ more than what I would have expected - does that make sense??

I realize he has everything exactly how he wants it right now. He has the benefits of being married when he wants them & also has his freedom.

I know it is time for me to detach better & do something different - what I have tried isn't working so I guess it can't hurt to try a different angle. I guess I just get a little scared that he won't miss me...not that I can do anything about it if he doesn't - and if I think about it realistically, I think he will.

Thanks again for your input. It all makes sense, just have to force myself to do it.

slt