I went to the dark side and asked my H a few questions this morning. He talked a bit, openly about what is happening. Then he got angry and told me this was a very painful period for him and he was too hurt to talk.
My answer to him was that he would feel better in about a year.
It was funny, because last night when we went off to our separate bedrooms he made it plain he wanted to talk in the morning. I guess he ran out of words. Or like my one theory, when you hear things out loud they sound different. (CRAZY)
What he wanted to talk about was that when he left her everything was sunshine and roses. By the time he landed she had done a 180 and hated him and they were through. He thinks her neighbor's death sent her over the edge.
But when I asked about how many days he was in Arkansas he got mad. I only asked because I had asked him to take some leave to work on the house and he just couldn't spare any leave.
And him wanting me to tent the house while he was planning to be with OW? He is just as crazy as she is.
The highlights of the 20+ texts and 5 emails I got from OW yesterday are this: He hates me more than he hates her, I'm ungrateful and so our my (Our) sons, I only want my H because he is my meal ticket, my H is a big baby who can't separate from me because I do everything for him.
She also sent several that were just personal attacks on him. A couple were pretty funny. Maybe not to him, but I was laughing. My personal favorite was when she accused me of just becoming her friend so that H could seduce he and that he and I could play with her emotions. She wondered how many other women we had done this with.
Oh the spew! And I didn't get mad about it. It was like water off a ducks back. Detachment is a wonderful thing!
I also got a text from OW telling me to ask my friends to stop sending her the anonomyous texts and emails. And the emails I got from her? They are again to the same email account that only 3 contacts have. Seriously. I gave it to her when we became friends because I did listen to the voice inside me a little bit. I wasn't sure I could trust her then.
Oh and who are the other 2 with that email? Best Buy and Macy's. I'm pretty sure they aren't sending me the anonomyous nasty personal emails!
Off to my day. I have errands and then over to sit with my friend. And it might make you all laugh, but it is COLD here. I might have to go find some socks and a sweater!
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
