@Chatter, I don't think that about all you're writing buddy. Have agreed with most of what you've wrote actually. And no I will not be allowing her to take our son. And yes I an contemplating talking to her dad about this babysitting.
When you get to the point that you can no longer take this crap behavior from her towards you and your son.(I will never get to this point God willing)
Sit her down.
And very calmly explain to her that you no longer have faith in her as a wife and as a mother. Based on her not being consistent in her actions.(Faith is exactly the opposite, believing in something even when it looks BAD!)
Tell her your moving in this direction. You are done with carrying the full load of being a father, husband and attempting to heal the marriage. You are done with pressuring her to be a wife and a mother. You are done with being with someone who does not want to be with you.(Already had this convo.)
That your doing well because you are being honest with yourself. That you and your son will be fine. As your are done waiting and do not plan on waiting forever. She is free to go off and do what ever she wants. But she is no long allowed to do these actions under this roof.(Already told her she's free to do whatever, but I will wait forever God willing, or at least 6mth-1yr after finalized divorce, will not be giving my wife who Christ expects me to love as he loves the church, an ultimatum.)
And the next time she crawls home at 6AM. Do not leave the bed. Tell her it is unacceptable behavior. And she can go sleep where ever. Do not move.(Well if my son is in bed then I am not going to allow a fight to start, waking him up just because I want to stay in bed.)
My family needs a leader right now, and it AIN'T gonna be my wife. Yes, shame on her for what she's doing, but SHAME ON ME if I let it affect me so much that I don't lead my family thru this. I can handle it. STRENGTH and HONOR.(Good advice, but it is not affecting me that much now, I will lead my family through this through God who strengthens me and if he's not leading me somewhere then I will stay put.)
I didn't mean you were instructing me to give up either. Was simply stated that I won't. And will do whatever within God's guidance to keep my family together.
This was from another thread and it brought me to tears...
"The real pain will come when I have to look into S's eyes and see his sadness, hurt, and abandonment. Poor guy. He's tough, but very sensitive. I will be there for him as best I can. I can't take away that pain though. He will have to deal with that himself... Making me cry."
