Yes, I sense the anger and defensiveness in her response, almost like she's talking to a kid. I recognize it because I've sent similar emails I'm ashamed to say.
Drop that rope. Do what you need to do when you need to do it. I know you won't drag this out unnecessarily. If you get a similar email, just answer with the facts. "It was filed on Fri." or whatever.
She could have done this divorce in a couple of different ways. She chose to put the burden on you. She must deal with that.
(((g)))
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss