the path is the goal...

[labug]

son gets crazy if i so much as imply that he is having any emotion

hmmmmm actually sounds very much like S19. I, being the touchy-feely one, have tried to draw him out. It only makes it worse.

So now I've learned am learning to leave it be. I expect him to want to talk about things because that's what I want. Not the case.

If I've mentioned this before, please ignore, but have you read How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It? This one is good for dealing with any male-female interactions, including sons-mothers.

Another I would suggest is out of print but can still be found, The Solo Partner by Phil DeLuca.