Tonight is the night that we talk to the boys. We had another discussion last night and it was calm and respectful. He thanked me for it this morning as he was leaving for work.
We are telling them "I'm sure its no surprise that we have been dealing with some issues for some time now. We have decided that the best way to handle them is to live apart for now, to allow each other some space. We still love each other but can't live in the same house right now. Dad will be at Uncle E's house and will be available to you whenever you want. We are both working hard to keep your lives as normal as possible with sports, etc"
H and I agreed that he will come here every other weekend to stay since there is no place for him to have the kids at his friends house. It is best to keep them in their home. I will make plans to leave every other weekend to give them that time.
During the week, he can take them fishing, golfing, to the boat for a bbq. They have options and he plans to see them one night each week in addition to his every other weekend.
We still have to discuss some details but I feel like we are doing a pretty good job so far.
He admitted that as much as he will miss the house and day to day, he feels relieved with our decision to separate. I do as well. I don't think we've talked this openly and honestly in years.
He took the day off on Friday to get the boat ready for the water. He will wait for the kids to leave for school and move out that morning. This will be my weekend with the boys. I plan to be around as much as possible in case they need me, but give them space if they just need each other.
