But I realize that I can't depend on her for my happiness. I need to keep working on myself and make my own happiness. It just seems so hard right now.
It is very hard to do. I've been married longer than you and in the beginning it felt like I'd lost a limb. But you just keep working at it and eventually it gets easier and you feel better and life goes on. The progression is not linear, your feelings will be all over the place for awhile.
Don't wallow for long, keep moving forward. You can do nothing to control her, you can only control yourself.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss