I meant to say it surely was an eye opener when you see both you and your spouse had a co dependent relationship with eachother!
My last sentence ^^^^, what I meant was I spent many years trying to control his feelings and treatment of me by pushing myself to be something or someone I really am not.
What Im now realizing, I never would've pleased him no matter what. There was always this underlying tone of him never being quite satisfied with me or what I did. But because he did it so passively and at times far and few between I didn't really catch it, until it was full blown non stop.
