New Day Rising

[greatwhitenorth]

Thanks for the feedback BeingMe and Snodderly. Means a lot that you check in. With regards to the boat selling, we're facing major job cuts here (in the tens of thousands) so there's not a lot of people in the mood to spend 18k on a boat, but only time will tell.

I've been thinking about my time with H on Sunday, the questions he asked....a lot of things about the house (the insulation, the sump pump, the pool and connecting the pump...these were all things I was left to do immediately at BD), about my plans should I lose my job (I told him I might sell the house and move to another city or province, which is true and not just posturing), if I was going to go south this spring (which we'd been planning the week before BD. I guess he couldn't see my tan!).

Something particularly interesting was that he said he's going to start bringing his clients (adults with developmental disabilities) to the farm next door again in a couple of weeks. He used to do this weekly but hasn't as much as talked to the owner since BD last September. The neighbour has been a great help to me so I'm not sure how H will be received over there, but I guess time will tell. I presume he'll get in touch rather than just show up. It won't be easy that's for sure.

He seemed to be interested in our life, but I'm trying to not over analyze. I still haven't gotten the email about picking up his rifles this week or the rest of his things later on. It all makes me wonder if he's starting to reconnect with the life he walked away from. I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on that.

I got home today to a bunch of mail for him...his tax assessment, something from the hospital, something from his pension plan. I have his cell bill from last week and a couple of other things that I forgot to give him on Sunday.

The fact that he hasn't changed his address suggests to me that he hasn't detached from me, our marriage or our home. Perhaps I'm over anlyzing....it could also be that he's lazy. I only tolerate the secretarial function because I want him to come home, but don't want to be filling myself with false hope.

One question is, how do I handle what could well be a sensitive, make or break place we are at?

Other question is, what do I do with this stuff now? Should I just stay the course, put his mail in the post and leave things alone? Should I wait until I hear from him about his rifles and getting the rest of his things? Or should I push the envelope and tell him he needs to change his address?

All advice welcome and appreciated!

Thanks, folks!