Outside the Scope of This Report 4

[WenikiTiki]

Thanks BeingMe!

This morning I was sitting at the kitchen table doing bills when H got up. I should have been hiding in my Woman Cave, but am following my instincts on this. If ever H talks about things it is first thing in the morning.

I was fully dressed, I have a full day today, my friend needs me to sit with her today, as her whole family has to go back to work or back to where they live on the mainland. Someone has to make sure she doesn't try to over do it, because she will!

Anyway, He said "Good Morning" when he emerged from his room. I replied with "Good Morning". He went out got his breakfast, complained that the glass he got out of the cupboard had mold in it. (I keep telling you all that living in the tropics isn't for sissies!) I said to sit it beside the sink and I would scrub it later.....

I asked him could he take care of our S22's insurance stuff today. He said yes, S22 is still sick, hopefully it takes effect right away. Then he askked was I getting any mmean texts or emails. I told him no.

He said that he is. He calls it her "Blowing UP His Phone". So OW is giving him spew like he has never seen. He is really hurt, by it. I just told him I was sorry she was being so mean. He went on to tell me all the stuff she is saying.

I was trying to stay out of it, but did have to tell him I don't think his next lover will be a man. I told him I was pretty sure he would move on to another woman. (Hardest part, was not laughing at how darn juvenile it all is.)

I was asked to apply for a job yesterday by my friend who is married to a 4 star. And she reminded me to watch for the invitation to their retirement ceremony this summer. So I brought this stuff up to my H, as everytime she and I make plans my H runs into her H within a few days.....

Anyway, my H said he couldn't go to the retirement ceremony because he is worthless, a coward, weak etc. (stuff OW said to him, I guess.) I sang a line out of Twisted Sister's classic "We're Not Gonna Take it!". The line:

No, We Ain't Gonna Take It
you're All Worthless And Weak


He wasn't amused. I told him he needs to play some different songs in his truck and learn to laugh at this. He just grumbled and left for work.

I'm sorry, but it is pretty darn funny. He doesn't know how to deal with this level of crazy/mean. And everyone here has said to let him and his affair run its course. And the fact that he wants to talk to me about it upsets some people.

I have been his best friend since Jan 1979. That is a long time. He doesn't have friends. He only has me and then her. And she isn't me and will never be me. And I'm pretty sure he and I are done with our marriage.

And he needs to work this all out in his own head. But I also think that sometimes saying things out loud helps with the process of what is going through someones head. He said he will never find an other woman. (Love that Black and White thinking!) I laughed and said that I was sure he would.

He went to work, and I gave him a hug on his way out the door. That is one hurt confused man. Wonder how long 'til she decides she wants him back?

He hasn't said another word to me about me who is in what bedroom. I will continue to be gone at night, and if I get home when he is still up, I will repair to my Woman Cave and continue my sorting of crap!

Breaking News! OW sent me multiple texts with photos attached. Screen shots of maps. My old phone is so crappy I can't see what they are. But the one message I can read says "By the way, I don't want your spineless man, keep him, you deserve each other" (sic)

I'm guessing there will be more to follow....... I'm not responding to her texts!