Have a question for you wise people in piecing - where would you recommend I start a new thread? I like reading here because I find it encouraging, but not sure it is the right place for me...
I started out in Newcomers this summer, got some feedback but had trouble posting for some reason & now haven't posted for a few months. I really feel like I need to post, if for no other reason than to vent/journal. I have been lurking all of this time - usually look at Newcomers, Separated & Piecing.
A brief overview of my situation:
Me - 35, H 30. Married 2 years as of Dec 21 (03), together since Jan 01. My 2nd marriage, his first. H moved out at end of June 03. Says he is not happy, I'm controlling, etc. He was living w/ OW & kids (his supposedly, they are 16 & 14). Moved out of there & is now living w/ a buddy, enjoying being a bachelor at the moment. Things change from day to day - one minute he wants a divorce & I shouldn't get my hopes up because he is never coming back, the next time we talk he says we have to work hard cuz our marriage is on the line & he's not giving up yet, I'm still his wife, blah blah blah .
An example from yesterday - I was at his place & he started R talk - said I take everything wrong, I have to accept we are never getting back together, he doesn't even want to be friends. I said "I feel like I have to be perfect & never backslide on anything w/ you" & this is when he said (w/in 5 minutes of previous comments) that our marriage is on the line & there is no room for mistakes. I said you just said our marriage was over for sure & he said, when we get along & don't argue, I know I still love you & know it can work.
Needless to say, I know I need to detach but have not been very good at it. Have been an emotional wreck lately, due to our anniversary, his b'day, xmas & New Years (NYE 2001 was our 1st date) & realize I need to work hard at DB/DR.
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