Not sure how similar this is but I've struggled with my D who's 10. I've felt that she has really pulled away from me over the past several months and I attribute it to her mimicing the behaviors of her mom. Not sure if that's true or not but its how I interpret it.
D10 has not been interested in talking, hugging, etc. I decided to not push the actions. If she does not want a hug, then that is her choice. However, I make it a point to tell her I love you and give a small kiss at bed-time or whenever appropriate. I take opportunities to offer engagement with her and as with my M, let go of expectations. She just has to know I'm there for her.
It seems to be working because in the past few weeks, D10 has started re-engaging with me in several ways and showing affection again on her own terms.
Hang in there. Just let your S10 know you are available. He'll come around and may even open up and talk about what he's feeling when the time is right.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
