the path is the goal...

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thanks labug and ((( ))) to you too on this fine morning:)

we are the "fixers" aren't we, and i'm beginning to realize that that's what got me into trouble - always trying to fix things around me. now i have to figure out how to step back and allow both h and s to fix their own stuff. my trying to fix things doesn't allow them to make their own efforts and takes the focus away from what i need to focus on within myself

it's more obvious in terms of h, but when it comes to s, i have no clue - is it better to let him be - that could come across as indifference (or am i worried it will) and where's the line between giving space and knowing he needs help?

thinking a lot about what Kaffe diem wrote about the double bind stuff and seeing how i participated. it's still a blurry area how to tackle the whole thing but i'm taking it one step at a time. wondering if i do it with s too.

in my sitch there is so much contact - which i used to always be upset about - but now finally ,like pema talks about, i am reframing that and taking each moment as a "juicy" opportunity to test and challenge myself and find out more about who and what i am

since yesterday thinking a lot about what she wrote in her first book - each person is in the middle of their sacred circle and what ever enters your circle is there to teach you something....


we go see the child counselor together this morning