Sheeeesh, this reads so much like where I was last October. The banter back and forth was so wearing. I wished there was a way to smile and make it pleasant. The best I managed was to refrain from pushing her buttons directly. I hope you can do the same or better. What I mean is if she is to have a negative reaction let it be of her making.
IDK if this applies, when I compromised my W pressed for more. So I stopped compromising and stood my ground. At the time I thought “What is the worst that can happen, she’ll divorce me, oh wait she is” I know it is a bit of gallows humor, but it got me through a couple of rough patches. At the time I was determined not to help her divorce me. She eventually filed.
Sometimes it seems as though they need to push buttons. I believe they are just as emotionally tied to this dance as we are. I believe my W uses anger to fuel her drive. Perhaps yours too.
Over in the alt I was advised not to “there, there, it’ll be alright” too much. I find it difficult at this stage not to agree with your stance. So I’ll simply ask what do you want from this and are you obtaining it?
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
