Easter was good... but having some hard interactions with my w.
She asked about when we were going to do taxes. I informed her that I was going to file separately. She proceeded to ask me if I was still filing as a domestic partner and to remind me that we were also supposed to complete the dissolution paperwork.
I told her we would have to reschedule because I was still waiting on checks from my car accident. That caused alot of banter.
She wanted to sign the papers before taking care of checks.
I said I wouldn't sign any paperwork until all finances are taken care of
She asked when that would be
I didn't respond. It's not on my high list of priorities to ensure things get done in a timely fashion.
Then she sent another email a few hours later asking why I didn't send my March health payment.
I said: because you haven't been cashing my payments
Her response: That is true, but you are still responsible for sending them.
I want to respond saying... no I am responsible for paying my insurance, not for sending you checks to cash at your leisure. If you want prompt payment, cash my damn checks.
It seems silly to me to keep sending her checks for her not to cash. There would be no reason to not cash it other than she is fearful and wants to cover herself somehow.
But I need to protect myself too.
This is soo hard.. and there is a part of me that just wants to yell....
...what do you want from me?
I'm not holding her up, I'm not screwing her over.. but to not financially protect myself is stupid.
Thoughts??
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
