I don't think much has changed since Cassanova's day regarding differences in how men and women are turned on. Men and women are wired differently, and those who are most successful in love embrace these differences and use them to their benefit.
Oh, I'm aware of that and I don't mind it one bit. In fact, I like it that women are like that. The current biological theory seems to be that while both men and women are attracted to healthy and nurturing members of the opposite sex (indicating good parental potential), men are more tuned to signs of fertility in women, while women are more tuned to signs of good character in men.
And since women have a relatively narrow time-window of easy fertility, men tend to focus on features which make a woman appear to be in that time-window. And that tends to make the focus more physical. Which makes men seem more "shallow".
I might seem unfair to both sexes, depending on how you look at it, but I'm OK with it. That's just the way it is. And to the women who feel shortchanged, all I can say is I don't think it's possible for any man on campus to get the kind of attention I saw a few women getting who had model-perfect looks, dressed sexy, and had charming personalities -- all in one package. I remember one such girl, her phone was ringing non-stop starting around 3 pm on Thursday afternoons, with guys trying to line up weekend dates with her, including a few professors. It was completely ridiculous. No guy could ever get that kind of attention at that point in his life.
But back to the original point. None of these is approaches is ever a guarantee. And I think a lot of the advice misses that possibility.
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Really, women feel threatened by men who want to learn to verbally seduce us? I thought we were only worried about the guys who were too physically aggressive?
Ah, we probably all would agree here that the question is only about sincerity. The guys coming out of those seduction seminars think it's unfair that another guy got laid "just because he knew the right thing to say". If only he could string the right words together, he could get laid too. Which, of course, hilariously misses the point.
