Originally I wanted to leave my question stand on it's own, Karma... but it might have sounded a little more harsh than I wanted it to...
So I will qualify it...
and I won't use my W as an example... maybe it would help for you to do the same... ie. don't think about your W in the context of answering the question...
There are things that I DID NOT want in a relationship with someone.
They are still things that I DO NOT want in a relationship with someone.
They were deal breakers and they still are.
In an relationship, there are certain things that I might overlook...
But what I've learned over the past 12 years is... some things I just don't want in my life...
