MyKarma, I used to feel that way with my H, that I did all the work to hold things together. What this means is that she is putting more emotional energy and ideas into the pot, and that's what she feels like. That she got 'excited' about telling you about the T she found was an indication of that level of energy she gives.
Out of curiosity, have you actually looked for a MC in your network yet? This could easily be seen as something you could have done to bring more to the table - and organised it as being on skype.
In conversing with her, the best you can do is simply to be honest in how you feel - honest communication.
You said: But even after telling her that, i had this nagging feeling whether she was hurt because of what i said.
This is you - not her. Those are your eggshells, she is not the one throwing them on the ground. So, a good place to start is to take responsibility for your own anticipation.
I can see this dance well - probably due to a combo of your anticipation and her expectations as well.
It's important to change this dynamic. The way to do that - from your end - is to NOT let your anticipation get the best of you. As you begin to communicate honestly ABOUT YOURSELF, she will pick it up and begin to respect your boundaries. That can only come from you.
So, for example, you can say:
Yes, I appreciate your suggestions, I really do and I will see if it works in a schedule that I devise for myself. I've been trying to work on how to best work it with my job etc., and it's important that I do that otherwise I will feel like I can't make this work, and it could affect my self-esteem in the long run. So, while it's a simple schedule, it's actually a new way of being that I am teaching myself.
In other words, bring it back to you. Don't get caught up in the tug of war of who controls what. Stand for yourself, what you want to achieve for yourself and what you want - and it can be done in a very loving assertive manner - which will soften her up quite a lot (I guarentee it). It might take a couple of times, but if you are consistent, a light bulb will go on for her. Then you will see a change in how she suggests things to you. You don't have to tell her to back off or to get lost.
Maybe you could practice on people around you already in which you don't have too much invested.
