Snowman. I am just saying that right now she is not able to communicate with you on the financial and legal aspect of the marriage. Down the road. Perhaps. But the lawyers are a necessary evil upfront for down the road. As long as you are preparing everything you will not waste your time with your lawyer.... I do not know about her.
Perhaps you should explain it to her that calling it in is not being a mother. If she wants to talk to her son then she needs to spend time with him. That is her choice to be away from him. As you full well know.
And you know your being 100% correct in your thoughts on dealing with this. Especially how you handle family. Good call. Anger from her you can deal with. As she cannot deal with reality.
Again. It was her choice to be away from your son.
I think sometime she needs a reply along these lines.
"I understand that your choice to be away from our son is difficult( or just the classic ... I am sorry you feel that way). But I have decided that it in our sons best interest to limit the conversations as this is confusing and upsetting him greatly. Take Care."
Or something along those lines.
Validation and a truth dart.
That one will say more than anything else.
And you can let her sit on that one for awhile.
Toughlove.
And you know if she comes back with threatening taking the son away.
The words need to be.
"You are free to leave, but you will not be taking our son from his home."
Another topic...
So what are your plans this week.
I will give you a few of mine. So you can keep me on target. You can ask here on in my thread.
just enjoy the beautiful april weather.
