Light at the end of the tunnel?

[Redo]

Thanks KD:

I am okay with my wife leading. I guess thats why i am willing to try out her IC with an open mind. But what i was not okay was the immediate feeling she started having that she's having to do all the hard work. That sets off red flags for me because in the past i did not recognize this in my wife and i let this affect me immensely, driving me to depression. I cannot change how she feels. But i am bothered that she again feels this way. This makes me think as to what progress has she made?. I know that makes me sound arrogant. But my fear is that once we get back what if she pushes something on me and if i dont follow it, she gets this feeling of "Iam doing everything and he's not". Just last week when i was gossiping to her about my lack of exercise, she started trying to tell me how to schedule my time etc. I had tell her that while i appreciated her concern for me, i'd rather figure that schedule myself. But even after telling her that, i had this nagging feeling whether she was hurt because of what i said. I decided not mull on that because i can do nothing if she decides to worry about it.

I guess now i am recognizing some of these traits in my wife and it worries me. In the past i was so scared that she would leave me and abandon me that i never bothered to look at them nor talk to her about them.