I just wanted to drop in and offer a belated welcome to the board.
This jumped out at me from one your posts:
Originally Posted By: finding nemo
She writes "you have to think of 'fighting for your marriage' in a different way." I agree with that, except that I am not "fighting", I have decided to stand for my marraige. Fighting makes me feel like my H and I are on opposite sides, one of us is right, one of us is wrong. Standing for my marriage makes me feel like I am standing up for what I believe no matter what happens. I know it's just one word, but that word changed my perspective.
I applaud your position in this. I, too, have made that pardigm shift. I've been standing for almost 14 months now. Hang in there. It really does get better. It's still a roller coaster at times but the hills aren't as big anymore.
