As for divorce and the dust settling...it does happen and people can put aside the arguments about finances and the what nots or how comes that require a divorce and get on w/life. I noticed that once my divorce took place, things actually settled down w/my xh once he received his settlement from the home and went on his merry way. I didn't hear from him again for about 3 1/2 years and he actually acted like a civilized human being. As for the lbs, a huge weight is lifted once a divorce takes place because you then know that he/she can't manipulate and/or control you any longer. You come to realize that all of the sparring over finances, property, assets, etc. should be over and done with and the dust settles and you can then focus on you, your family and your future.
And then again, sometimes it doesn't end. They remain un-civil long after they have gotten what they wanted. Or said they wanted at any rate.
It doesn't end until you end it. As hard as that might sound, unless and until you end it, it will not end for you. It might for him as was pointed out by others, but it will not for you.
What I see in your posts are some interesting thoughts and growth. I see positive momentum. Keep up the good work and have zero expectations. It'll show.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
