As you're continuing on this roller coaster ride, just remember how far you've come in the last few months, how strong you have become.
Originally Posted By: purgatory
I actually learned a lot from him about what he's looking for and what he still holds over me- not easy to listen to, but helpful pieces of the puzzle.
My C told me in one of my sessions that we should take it as a positive when the WAS is "sharing" why they feel hurt. As much as it hurts to hear it and to be blamed for all that's gone wrong, the C said to try to let the words bounce off you and pay attention to what they are saying. Once we understand where they are coming from, it is then when we are really able to put all of the pieces together. It sounds like you're already doing that, so that's great.
Your H is asking for time and space to "heal his wounds". He's got a one year deployment coming up....plenty of time as space. Stay strong and stand by your decision to hold off on D until after the deployment.
