Light at the end of the tunnel?

[Redo]

It has been a long time since i posted to my sitch. I guess when things 'seem' to be going good, i got lazy.

Friends, i am looking for a little outside perspective here if possible.

So we were at a stage where wife said she'd come back and we were just trying to sort of re-establish our R again. We talk on the phone everyday and even flirt a bit. Things were good...

My wife goes to this T for herself that she loves. He's not in the medical network, but she felt she was helped. And she's paying for it. I was glad that she's getting help for herself.

For me, i found group settings much helpful. So i go to lot of group meetings to find help. And they have helped me.

Lately wife has been telling me that her T said he could see us both. I did bring up the issue that then he would be her IC and our MC and how that would work out. She said that he could manage it. I was not too sure. But that topic did not come up again and things were good.

Today she calls me excitedly that her T agreed to skype with me during a session with her. See i told her that i would not be to able to attend his sessions as they were on weekdays and right now i dont get off on weekdays. Traveling 210miles on weekdays was not possible for me. So the moment she told me about the skype thing, I thought that i should encourage the thought. So i talked to her about the logistics and told her that i would be okay to skype. But i told her that i will decide about him only after the first session. I also said that in future i might help us to look for someone in network for us in MC when wife comes back to our town.

W seemed off on the phone and so i asked her if something was bothering her. Then she began to say that i am hesitant about her T. I told her that if i was, i would not be agreeing to the skype thingy. Then she went back to the theme that she felt that she was doing more toward rebuilding that relationship than i was. That she was being more enthusiastic. I told her that i am trying to do my part too. By being calm, strong and working on myself to not have immature reactions with her. This also dredged up past bad feelings where she always felt that she was the ONE carrying the burden. So she felt trapped and finally filed for D. So my heart started racing. I knew at that point that i would not be able to have a normal convo with her. So i told her that i'd have to talk to her later because my heart was racing. She hung up. I then texted her that i too am trying to bridge the relationship from my side. That if she starts feeling that she is the only one working for the R, then we are on the same boat as last year when she filed.


People, i'd like some feedback. Did i handle this convo wrong. Could i have done better?

I had some reservations about her T and so i put it out there. Should i have just been quiet and gone to the T and not said anything? My heart tells me that if i do that, Then i am back to walking on eggshells.

Help!