Tough times Purg, sorry your h still seems to be a d. Hopefully the LRT will change the dynamic up some.
I have moved into a new phase of detachment w/ my w and have dropped the rope as much as I am capable of at this time. Their are times that it is so freeing just worrying about what's best for you and not thinking about every little thing you do regarding your WAS.
Of course their are times when it is extremely painful as well but those times are less and less as time goes on.
Wishing and hoping the best for you. Your not in this alone!