Amen. It's really just putting a structure to the form that's already present.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
I'll have to admit it y'all, there are times where a feel a bit of WAS syndrome coursing through my veins. If my W wanted to come back today, I'd have to be convinced it's not just going to be more of the same and that she's made some positive changes in her life. Unfortunately, I haven't seen too many positive changes. She has dug our relationship into a bigger hole to climb out of.
That all being said, I still would be absolutely delighted to have my family back. Especially if involved a new and improved W, new and improved me, and a new and improved M.
13.5 months after the bomb, I'm still in the game. It may not obviously look good, but I'm still in it.
I did end up having a handoff with my W tonight with my S. Thank the Lord it was drama free tonight. I was able to present myself with a pleasant demeanor. She complimented the shoes I was wearing. Oddly enough, she complimented the same pair last month. She also is battling a sinus infection. She told me she went to the doctor for it and at the same time received treatment for a stomach ulcer. It just kind of reminds she's under a lot of stress and turmoil.
I've been feeling a heightened level of anxiety over the last couple of weeks. I think I need to get back to some good 'ol fashioned detachment.
Did manage to run for 3 miles on Monday morning in 51 degree weather and bike this morning in frigid 34 degree weather for 8.6 mi.
Well, there was drama tonight. I came home from work and my W was already there to pick up my S. Her car was out in the street. That could only mean one thing - she had OM with her and she was adhering to the bare minimum of the boundary I had established.
During the hand off, I politely but firmly asked her to refrain from bringing OM to my house again. She claimed since they were going out to dinner, that it would be highly inconvenient to pick up my S and go back and get OM. I suggested she could drop him off somewhere if that's what she needed to do, but I didn't want this in my face anymore. I asked her how she would feel if the tables were turned. She claimed it wouldn't bother her. She went on to say that we're not "together". I just replied with, "You know we don't see it the same way. I am just telling you straight up how I feel." She just said OK, and left.
Ugh - emotionally exhausting. However, I couldn't just let that one by. I felt I needed to say something.
I am definitely going to need the 26 mile ride tonight in the dark.
Just checking in with you. It seems strange to not hear from you in so long. I hope all is well in the Queen City.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
It's been an extremely busy week since I've last posted. That Thursday night, I got ready to take my 26 mi ride and realized it was 12:30am, so I bagged it and did a 3 mi run the next morning instead.
My S was out of school for spring break last week. He had found a Phineas and Ferb live show he wanted to go to in Charlotte, NC. He also knew I was crazy enough to make the drive and I love to go to NC anyway, so we headed to the NC's Queen City for the first part of Spring Break.
We had a layover in the 'nati on Monday night. I went ahead and crammed in a couple days' worth of exercise in on Tuesday morning. I did a 3 mi. run and hopped on the bike for 26 miles.
We followed that by heading to Chicago Tue. - Fri. I took my son to the Museum of Science and Industry and we also went out to Lego Land. Had a great time.
Unfortunately I did bring along that underlying anxiety that tends to accompany our situations, but that didn't prevent us from having a great time.
My W came to pick my S up on Friday night. It was a brief, but pretty decent exchange. She came alone, and that helped.
I just decided to enjoy my day yesterday alone. I hung out at my local coffee shop for a cup of coffee. It was a beautiful day so I went out for a 35 mile ride. Cut the grass afterword to keep my muscles loosened up.
Today I went to a great Easter service at church. I don't have any Easter brunches to go to, but it's OK today. I think I need a little break after last week's activities. It's another beautiful day, so I'll probably head out for a run this afternoon.
I'm so glad you and your son had a great spring break! Y'all sure did pack a lot of fun in. He's so blessed to have you as his dad! I'm also glad you had a blessed Easter and that your wife respected your boundary of leaving om on the side of the road (or wherever) when she came by. That's just better for everyone!
I was able to present myself with a pleasant demeanor. She complimented the shoes I was wearing. Oddly enough, she complimented the same pair last month. 
She also is battling a sinus infection. She told me she went to the doctor for it and at the same time received treatment for a stomach ulcer. It just kind of reminds she's under a lot of stress and turmoil.
